Orienting the dipole antenna to favor the downstairs should work
okay. If not, a directional antenna should put a good signal through
those floors. The concrete, metal, and wood in a building can
attenuate the wi-fi signal if you're going through more than two
levels - the throughput starts going dow.
As for antennas with gain, a yagi, biquad, or long helical should get
signals through plenty of wood and concrete. These same antennas make
it possible to connect over hundreds of meters of free-space.
Good Luck
Phil
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